Dirty Talk For Beginners
Hello Gorgeous Humans,
June is here, and with it comes cooler nights, deeper conversations, and a reminder that confidence in intimacy often begins with communication. This month we’re talking about something that can feel intimidating at first but can completely transform connection, pleasure, and trust: dirty talk for beginners.
But before we dive in — here’s what’s coming up this season with Sammy Sex Talks.
Upcoming Group Programs
All programs are run online
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All programs are run online 〰️
The 7 Principles of Making a Marriage Work
21st August
9:00 AM – 5:30 PM AEST
$550 per couple
A full-day workshop designed to strengthen communication, deepen understanding, and reconnect you with your partner.
Bringing Baby Home
17th July
9:00 AM – 5:00 PM AEST
$550 (couples welcome)
Support your relationship through the transition to parenthood, with practical tools to stay connected during this major life shift.
Lessons in Love
12th June
9:00 AM – 5:30 PM AEST
$550 per person
An opportunity to explore emotional patterns, relationship dynamics, and your own personal growth in love.
Ongoing Groups & Professional Development
Women’s Perimenopausal Support Group
Every 2nd Wednesday
9:30 AM – 11:00 AM AEST
$40
Next June session: Let’s talk symptom management.
Professional Book Club
Last Friday of the month
9:00 AM – 10:00 AM AEST
$40
June’s book: The Confidence Gap by Russ Harris.
Group Supervision for Clinical Professionals
Last Wednesday of the month
9:00 AM – 10:00 AM AEST
$40
A supportive space for reflection, learning, and professional connection with fellow clinicians.
Dirty Talk for Beginners: Why It’s Actually Part of Enthusiastic Consent
When people hear the words dirty talk, they often imagine confidence, experience, or explicit language straight out of a movie. In reality, good dirty talk isn’t about performance — it’s about communication.
At its core, dirty talk can actually be part of enthusiastic consent.
Why? Because speaking during intimacy helps us express:
what we want,
what feels good,
what we’d like more of,
what we’re curious about,
and how the experience is making us feel.
That’s powerful.
For many people, saying things out loud during intimacy can feel vulnerable. We’re often taught to stay quiet about pleasure, desire, or needs. But learning to communicate in intimate moments creates safer, more connected experiences for everyone involved.
Dirty talk doesn’t need to be graphic or theatrical. Sometimes it’s as simple as:
“I really like that.”
“Can you do that again?”
“Softer.”
“Harder.”
“I want to kiss you.”
“I love how that feels.”
“You look amazing.”
These are all forms of erotic communication — and they help create mutual understanding and ongoing consent.
Being able to comfortably ask for what you want someone to do to you is a skill.
Being able to request what you want to do to another person is a skill.
Being able to name how the experience is making you feel is a skill.
And like all skills, they can be practiced.
One of the healthiest things we can bring into intimacy is openness. When we communicate clearly, we reduce guesswork and create more opportunities for pleasure, safety, reassurance, and connection.
If you’re new to dirty talk, start small:
Narrate what you enjoy.
Compliment your partner.
Ask questions.
Say yes to what feels good.
Name sensations in real time.
You don’t need a script.
You don’t need to sound “sexy.”
You just need honesty.
The truth is that enthusiastic consent isn’t only about saying “yes” or “no.” It’s also about active participation, feedback, curiosity, responsiveness, and mutual enjoyment. Communication during intimacy can become a beautiful way of checking in, connecting, and co-creating pleasure together.
So this month, consider giving yourself permission to use your voice a little more.
You deserve to be heard in your pleasure.
With warmth, curiosity, and consent,
Sammy XX